INSERT INTO friends (

    id, 

    dob, frn, status,

    "groupId", "createdAt", "updatedAt"

) VALUES (

    '1da04305-68ef-4dc1-be6c-826ab83a6479',

    '1937-06-01T08:29:08-07:00', 100001, 'New',

    'bc1567bc-14ff-4ba2-b108-4cb2e0f0f768', NOW(), NOW()

) 

ON CONFLICT ("groupId", frn) DO UPDATE SET

    status='Revised', 

    "updatedAt"=NOW()

WHERE friends.status<>'Deleted';